It takes time and effort to improve the basic parent-child connections.Although parenting is a demanding job, parents can maintain a relationship with their children throughout their life. However, at some point, some parents feel like they are not connected to their kids as they’d like to. And this is quite normal. The fear, however, is daunting. No parent wants to be left out in their child’s life.
This is not unattainable through.From an early age, you can build a unique connection with each of your kids. Wondering how? Keep reading to find out how.
1. Listen to Them
If you have more than one child, it can be challenging to keep track of all the various personalities in your home. Kids are individuals and they should be treated as such! You might not think that differentiating between your children is a big deal—after all, it’s pretty natural to do so—but striving to treat your kids differently based on their unique personalities can actually help them feel more connected with you and each other. Here are some tips for how parents can help make those connections happen.
2. Invest in Their Hobbies
Each child has a pacific hobby that they enjoy to spend their time doing. Rather than pushing your likes on them, adopt what they love doing. If they are into cooking, you can invite them to work with you in your kitchen. Get them to help you choose your customized kitchen cabinets and allow them to explore different recipes. To make things more interesting, you can make your own cookbook by compiling recipes.
As they grow, you kids will appreciate the effort you took into knowing what they loved and being part of their exploration journey. You need to keep in mind that depending on the number of kids you have, you should share your spare time equally. And you should also keep in mind that it’ll not be all rainbow and sunshine. You will hit some bumpy roads and that’s okay.
3. Build New Habits Together
Hobbies are not the only thing you can use to build a connection with your children. Building new habits together can be equally rewarding. You can debate with your kids on what you should explore. Make it democratic. Being fully in control will make them feel like they are more driven to do what you want rather than being part of the decision.
When you start something together, you are more likely to find common grounds and avoid pushing each other to breaking points.
4. Be their go-to Person
Kids in most cases hardly share what they are facing unless they feel that they can trust you. To do this you need to learn to listen to your kids without questioning anything, trying to put themselves in their shoes and validating their feelings no matter the gender. When kids feel safe to express themselves to you without fear of being harshed down or reprimanded, you will be their number one go-to person when they encounter anything. For example, if there is a problem with the drainage system at home, the first person they need to think of is you. Even something as simple as changing plumbing parts, if you are their first choice, means you can give kids a huge sense of security.
It’s a good thing to foster in your kids so you can know exactly what is going on in their minds and life in general. Remember that this works differently for each child. Each child needs to know that they are safe to be vulnerable with you and share anything bothering them.
5. Identify Each Child’s Unique Personality
Facilitating deep, meaningful connections with your children is the key to developing a healthy relationship that will last a lifetime. To do so, you must first identify each child’s unique personality.
As you engage with each child, try to listen intently and ask probing questions about what he or she likes and dislikes, as well as his or her interests and activities. You can also look at their actions for clues about what makes them tick: Do they respond well when given choices? And what drives them in life? Your goal is not only to learn about the various aspects of their personalities but also to determine the best ways you can support them by identifying areas where they may need extra attention—and where you might be able to help guide them toward success. This process may take time; it might even require several conversations over time before significant insights start coming together for either party involved!
The Bottom Line
Although it can seem impossible to connect with each of our kids, the truth is that there are many ways we can make sure they feel loved and cared for. By making time for them to have individual conversations with you, you create a bond that helps them feel safe. And by doing things together that they love, you give them an outlet to express themselves freely while strengthening their connection with you.